5 Great Tips to Teach your Child Respect

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At Basik Training, my number one goal is to equip you with the tools you need to help your child become kind, respectful, and successful members of society. One major problem in our society is the lack of respect so many individuals have for other people, and more importantly, for authority figures. How did we get here? Who really knows…? But I do know that there is something we can do as caregivers and parents to help our children become respectful, kind and happy individuals.

In this post, I would like to share five easy ways with you to show your little one how and why they should be respectful and kind to others.

1. To teach your children to respect others, you must respect them too.

First and foremost, the best way to teach your child to respect others is to show them that you respect others. How do you speak to – or about other people in front of your child? If your child hears you complaining about other people or talking badly about them, chances are they are going to pick up on that. Think about the things you’re saying under your breath about your husband – are your little ones around to hear that? What about service people? Servers at the restaurant you eat at, or the grocery clerk.

If you want your children to become respectful and kind adults, it is important to model this behavior to them. Teaching your child that you respect others will cause them to respect others as well. Pay attention to the way you are treating other people, especially when you are in front of your children.

2. Teach your child to respond when they are spoken to.

Parenthood is hard enough. You’re trying to manage all of your responsibilities, as well as take care of your little one. It can be super to helpful to teach your child to respond to you so that you know they heard what you said to them. This can be super helpful to you and for the other people that will be caring for them, such as teachers.

When you ask your child to do something, remind them to respond to you. You may want them to respond with “yes ma’am” or “no ma’am”. Or you may be fine with a simple, “okay”. No matter how tired they are or what temperamental mood they may have at the moment, responding to you is not that difficult. If you’re having trouble getting them to do this, take a moment to get on their level and ask them to look at you. Explain to them that they need to respond to you when you ask them to do something so that you know they heard you.

Also, think about when you are out in public. How many times does someone ask them a question and not get an answer? Depending on the development of your little one and their verbal abilities, this really can be seen as rude. It’s not nice to ignore people who are speaking to you. Teach your little one that it is rude to ignore others. A simple response is not a hard thing to do, and it will teach them how to react in social situations.

*As a side note, I’m not suggesting that you force your child to share a deep conversations with everyone. I do believe that your child should be allowed to trust their intuition and not be forced to be overly friendly with others they aren’t comfortable with. Finding the right balance in this situation is important. However, you can always teach them to respond with a short answer or even by saying they don’t want to talk about it.

3. Teach your child to say please and thank you.

Saying please and thank you are the most basic forms of showing that you have good manners. These words convey respect, as well as appreciation, to the person who is giving your child something. Teaching your toddler these words can begin before they ever actually start speaking. Studies have shown that infants as young as seven months old are practicing word formation in their mind before they ever start trying to out loud. So, don’t wait! Start with modeling this behavior to them early on. And when they do begin speaking, practice this with them.

4. Be consistent when you tell your child “No”.

I absolutely know – this can be one of the most difficult things to do. To see your child lose it over something so small, can be very hard! I know it may be just one cookie, and it would be really easy to make your child happy again by letting them have it. But if you give in and let them have the cookie after you already told them no, you teach your child that it is okay to act like a crazy banshee in order to get what they want. The word “no” loses its influence and becomes meaningless.

Unless you are somewhere with your toddler where they truly do need to be quiet, like a church service or funeral, let them pitch their fit and don’t get involved. By not reacting to the tantrum, your child will see that they don’t get what they want when they act that way. Once the fit has died down get on your toddler’s level, take their hands and look into their eyes. Explain to them that when they act that way you don’t hear them. Tell them that their behavior in not acceptable and that sometimes we don’t get everything we want. This is so important for your child to understand! I guarantee you they won’t get it the first time, or probably even the first ten times. But teach them that sometimes we don’t get what we want, and that is okay.

5. Start a gratefulness practice with your child.

Many children today have and endless supply of toys, get to participate in so many different activities, and have no idea how good they have it. This is not their fault. Kids don’t know that life can be any different. Unfortunately though, there are also many children that don’t get these same luxuries. There are children that don’t have any toys and that don’t get to participate in any activities because their parents can’t afford it.

Teaching your child to be grateful for what they do have is the first step to helping them see how fortunate they are. My suggestion for you is to start a gratefulness practice with them. Pick a specific time of the day that you aren’t rushed for time to discuss three things that you are grateful for. This can be a great family activity at dinner time, during bath time, or before bed. Start with sharing the three things that you are grateful for and go around allowing each child to share theirs. Not only will this be beneficial for your children, but it will also be beneficial to you. One of the biggest side effects of gratefulness is happiness.

The 5 Core Areas for Child Development

Hey guys! I thought it was important to break down some of the foundation of where my posts come from. I want to write and share things with you based on my foundational beliefs about toddlers and children.

I chose the name Basik Training originally because I wanted to open a preschool that taught kids the basics of becoming good, wholesome people who were kind to others. My idea was to teach them good manners, to enjoy learning, and to care for themselves. Since I never actually opened a daycare, I want to share my message with you here in this blog.

I have taken the time to break down for you the foundations of helping your toddler develop into an outstanding member for society. We are responsible for our children. As a parent, you are obligated to provide them with everything you can to help them manage their life the best way possible.

The following five areas are the most important to focus on for ages 1-5.

1. Health & Wellness

Becoming a healthy adult starts with childhood. It is your responsibility to provide your child with the skills to be and remain healthy, and it can be fun! You have the ability to teach your little one to enjoy fruits and vegetables and to enjoy going outdoors for fun physical activities. Help your little one out! Provide him or her with healthy meals and snacks. Take them for a short hike and show them how refreshing it is in nature, or turn on some music and have a dance party once a day. By teaching your toddler to enjoy this part of life can help them so much later!

2. Social Skills

If you have a toddler, you know how interesting they can make social gatherings! Show them how to properly interact with strangers. Teach them to trust their intuition, but to be respectful at the same time. Show them how to treat their friends, and help them understand why. You have the obligation to raise emotionally intelligent children who know how to handle themselves in social situations.

3. Ethics & Discipline Tips

In addition to social skills, ethics and values are key! Babies aren’t born knowing that stealing is wrong. They don’t know that lying is a bad thing to do. It is up to you to teach your toddler what is right. It is also up to you to teach them that the world is good, that they are loved, and that we should show other people love.

Sometimes, in order to teach your child right from wrong, you must discipline your children. This is not a bad thing! In fact, teaching them how to behave is very good for them. Always keep in mind though, there is effective discipline and very ineffective discipline. It’s important to know your child well enough to know what style works best for them.

4. Self-Awareness & Mindfulness

Every human being is different. We all love differently, learn differently, and think differently – and that is normal. Knowing how to calm yourself down in a tense situation can be very helpful. Getting to know your toddler and helping them to figure out what works best for them can help them so much! For example, some kids wake up after their nap happy to see you and wanting to cuddle while others are grumpy and need their space. There is nothing wrong with that! Help them out by giving them what they need.

*In addition, I find this category super important because of the amount of technology we have available to us. Although it can be helpful in many ways, it can also be very distracting! Teach your child how important it is to disconnect, and how to focus on what is happening around them. Learning to live in the present can help reduce stress and make everything in life more meaningful.

5. Education & Life Skills

Last but not least, education and life skills are a very important area to train your child in. From birth through age five, your little one is going to change and develop tremendously. You can begin teaching them numbers, letters, and colors as early as you want to. You can also help them learn everyday life skills based on their development. Your toddler is capable of putting his or her toys away, putting their laundry in the dirty clothes hamper, and many other small tasks. Toddlers love having their independence, and you’d be surprised how much they enjoy helping! Give them tasks they are capable of and observe how much it can actually be fun for them!

Basik Training is based off of these five core categories. These are the five most helpful areas to help your child develop skills in that will help them in every stage of their life. I will be sharing many more ideas, tips, and tricks to help you instill these foundational skills into your child.

Five Ways to Easily Incorporate Learning

Toddlers are changing every single day, and observing everything around them. Even if your child is having a particularly hard day, there are still moments in which they will be capable of learning something new. Here are a few ways that you can incorporate learning opportunities for your toddler in your normal day-to-day life.

1) Sing songs!

Your child is learning new words, movements, gestures, and reactions in the things they listen to and observe every day. Songs can be a fun way for kids to learn the meaning of and how to say new words. They can learn their letters, days of the week, animal sounds, new hand motions, silly movements, and all kinds of different things through songs. Sing the ABC’s to your child throughout the day. Eventually you may catch them singing it all on their own. Sing “Wheels on the Bus” and “Old McDonald.” Singing together is a fun way to interact with your child, and you might be surprised at how much they pick up on.

*If you don’t know any songs, you can always look them up on YouTube, or use the Toddler Sing-Along’s channel on Pandora to help you get started.

2) Count everything.

Little ones are very smart. They are capable of learning to count as soon as they begin trying to talk. Find something you do repetitively with your child each day that you might be able to incorporate counting into. For example, If you have a set of stairs in your house that you go up and down with your child each day, you could count each step with them. The repetitiveness will teach him or her the order these numbers go in, and what the words are associated with.

You can also incorporate counting into many other things you do together throughout the day. Count their blueberries, their Legos or little cars, count things you find while out exploring. Even when you feel like your little one is not paying any attention, keep working with them. They are observing so much more than you might think.

3) Go for a walk.

Personally, going for a walk is pretty much therapeutic for me. When I’m feeling depressed, tired, or stressed I love to go on a relaxing stroll. I know I am getting some exercise and it feels good to get some fresh air. Sometimes when a toddler has been cooped up inside for a while, you might notice them acting agitated or emotional. I believe toddlers sometimes just needs some fresh air as well.

Also, this is a perfect opportunity for a learning activity! Don’t feel like you always have to do something extravagant. It’s easy to forget that your little one may never have seen a pinecone before. They may be fascinated when you blow the seeds off of a dandelion puff. They might learn what a ladybug looks like in real life! Learning opportunities are everywhere if you allow them to be.

4) Self-entertained.

Is your little one always under your feet while you cook? Set them up with something creative to do, or give them an activity. If your child enjoys coloring, you can set them up in their high chair with a piece of paper and a few crayons. Be sure to tell him or her the color of each crayon, and occasionally check back in on them while you’re getting the meal cooked. Ask them what color they’re using. Suggest to them that they try another color. By engaging them in conversation, they’re developing their little brains and thinking about what you are asking them.

If your child is not into crayons, you can always try this with play dough. Other ideas include giving them a puzzle they are able to solve, a shape ball, or little connecting trains. Whatever it is you get them doing, try to keep them entertained with something else. Learning to play without someone else is just as important as playing together for your toddler.

5) Read books to them.

Now, I do agree that some children enjoy books more than others. However, if you start reading to your child early they are more likely to be interested in sitting still long enough to get through a book. To succeed in getting your toddler interested in reading, try it during different times of the day. Maybe before bedtime, or after nap works best because your toddler is more calm and able to sit still with you. It is also a good idea to read to your child even when you don’t have their full attention. Finish the book even if they get up and walk away right in the middle of it, because they are still hearing what your are saying.

Once a toddler has found his or her favorite book, they may ask you to read it to them several times every day. To an adult this behavior may seem ridiculous and annoying because we just read this repetitive book five times in a row. However, if you treat it as a learning opportunity your child can easily increase their vocabulary. In addition, repetition will help your child to learn how a word is pronounced properly.

You can also ask questions about what the characters in the book are doing. Ask about the colors they see and count how many birds are in the picture. Ask the little one to find different objects or to tell you what they are. There is a variety of things to learn in a single book.

Toddlers are so impressionable. There are so many ways to incorporate learning into your child’s daily activities. I believe if you are seeking out opportunities to teach your child new things on a regular basis, it won’t be difficult to discover new ideas. Try some of these tips, and leave some ideas that work for you!